This is an excerpt from The Influential Conversationalist published by Jen Mueller in October 2017. Conversation skills can develop leadership potential. You control your career opportunities. Stop making excuses. Start getting things done and know the advice Jen gives in the book comes from real-life experience and a real, honest-to-goodness desire to help you succeed.
The motivation behind why you read the book will likely dictate how much you get out of it. When you apply the strategies outlined here try to view them, not just as a how-to guide for workplace conversations, but as a way to view every conversation as a potential opportunity.
That’s why I wrote the book. I wanted to give you tools that empowered you to champion yourself, create more opportunities and step into leadership roles without needing someone to give you permission or a title. I wanted to give you something to say when you faced opposition, felt defeated and lost the ability to see your own brilliance.
I wanted to give you the same techniques that got me to where I am in my career. I wanted to teach you what to say because based on what I was told, I never should have succeeded:
- I was told women don’t belong in sports.
- I was told by a former manager in my first television job that I was hired to wear short skirts and open doors, not to think or contribute to conversations.
- I was told I belonged in the kitchen where I could cook and clean, not on the football field where I could officiate.
- I was told I wasn’t pretty enough for TV.
- I was told I was just a pretty face, and full of shit.
Every time someone told me something that sounded like, “No” I talked my way into a new opportunity. I sought out conversations with influencers who could give me a chance. I found ways to show up over and over again. I rehearsed conversations I had with decision makers. I built relationships and I stayed on the radar. I was able to do all of this because I am an Influential Conversationalist. Good communication skills open doors and make a difference.
Oh, there’s one more thing I was told, by my mother who told me I shouldn’t take a picture flipping off the camera with my Super Bowl ring.
I usually listen to my mother, but after all the things I’ve been told, I say that picture Finally Underscores my accomplishments.
Purchase the book on Amazon, or contact Jen to place a bulk order of books for your company or group. She’s also an entertaining and energetic speaker who provides a different perspective on business communication and leadership skills. She can be reached via email: Jen@TalkSportytoMe.com