My father used to tell me “If you’re talking just to hear yourself talk, stop it.” I’ve been accused of doing that many times, which is how I ended up as an expert talker. So many times we focus on what we’re going to say instead of what we’re going to ask. Yesterday I outlined a quick conversation you could start based on Mariners outfielder Milton Bradley. You can check out the link here. Take a look at that conversation – your part consists of 3 questions. You don’t have to do extensive research to ask those questions, but you can get a lot of information as a result of that conversation. Question asking is key to a good conversation, especially when you’re getting to know someone – like on a date.
Let me give you an example of a conversation I had once over dinner.
Me: “Do you follow baseball?”
Him: “Yeah, a little. Not as much as I used to, but I don’t really watch the Mariners.”
Me: “Do you have favorite team?”
Him: “I grew up watching the Red Sox.”
Me: “Why Boston?”
Him: “Because I grew up on the East Coast. My sister and I still go to games when I go home during the summer and we take a trip to see the Red Sox in Spring Training every year.”
The conversation was a great starting point to get to know my date better, and all I had to do was keep asking questions. Asking questions on a date or when you’re talking to co-workers sends two messages – ‘I’m interested in what you have to say,’ and ‘I value your opinion and comments.’ That goes a long way in building a good relationship.
Make it Interesting – A few talking points to bring up in conversation this week:
– Milton Bradley is dealing with personal issues. This will be a topic of conversation with baseball fans for a while.
– For the football fan, here’s an interesting article on Tim Tebow. He’s got the top selling jersey in the entire NFL right now – and he’s only completed a couple practices with the Denver Broncos.